Doug Baker has written an important blog post for Patheos titled “Adultery Nation.” This is one of the critical issues facing our churches and the wider culture today. With almost every passing month, I learn of another Christian (and often a fellow minister) who has either engaged in adultery or is the victim of adultery. Families are being destroyed, ministries are being forfeited, and trust is being shattered.
As Doug hauntingly notes,
Adultery is the enemy of reverence. By its sheer brazenness, adultery creates enormous pastoral challenges for modern churches as more and more Christians find themselves caught in the web of adulterous activity-either as the offending or the innocent party. Absent (omitted?) in much of Savage and Haag’s research are the awkward conversations, the cover-up, the lying, the betrayal, the horror of discovery, and the aftermath of ruptured trust that usually accompanies adultery.
Victims of adultery often find themselves ashamed, reeling from embarrassment, and filled with rage at the offending spouse. Adultery’s treachery leaves a scar that takes decades to heal, and the children of adulterers too emerge into adulthood with open wounds and confused ideas about marriage. Sadly, the pattern of adultery often continues in the children of adulterers, creating a living horror that seemingly knows no end.
I’d encourage you to read the whole article. I’d also recommend you pick up a copy of Russ Moore’s convicting and encouraging book Tempted and Tried: Temptation and the Triumph of Christ (Crossway, 2011).